We all have, or will have, met that person that is just so wonderful. The one you know has a pretty damn good chance of being "the one". Naturally, you'll met a lot of people that MIGHT be "the one", but there will be one that stands out.

The one that got away.

Maybe you were so close! Maybe you even kissed him or her, and went on a couple dates and everything. Maybe you even were in a relationship. And then, that special person somehow dissapeared out of your life.


I believe that the consept of "the one that got away" is based on three things.

• Neverending chemestry. You will meet several people in your life that just fits you and your personality, even in the weirdest ways. Chemestry is one of the two things that is needed in love, and it doesn't simply just go away.

•  You never had the real chance. This is mostly about the conditions of you loosing that special person. If you're constantly arguing with a person, and you both start to dislike eachother, and the relationship simply doesn't work, then it's not the one that got away. The one that got away is based on not having the real chance to do it right, and mostly, the ending has nothing to do with the relationship itself. Maybe the special person had to move, or you had a personal problem that got away, or the timing was just not right. You feel like you got interrupted in the marathon of showing that person how good you actually are together. 

•  Teaser. It's like watching the movie trailer for a movie that never got released. Or to have a taste of some really delightful food, and then have it taken away. This one is a lot like the one above, but slightly different feeling. It's like you got a taste, just to feel how good it is, and then it's taken away. It was delicious, it had the clear potential to be even better, and then it got taken away. 

The feelings towards the one that got away doesn't fade right away. Depending on how close you got before it ended, it can last from a couple of years, to forever and beyond. It doesn't mean you'll always think of that person, or fall in love with others, but when you see that person again, after all this time, you know the feelings never got away.

The sad thing is that I don't think theese feelings are about that person, as much as the situasion. You just want to have what you almost got. You just want to finish the chocolate, not just have a tiny taste. You want to go through all the stages of a relaitonship and then watch it sink like Titanic, not have it taken away at it's best by some unrelated problem.

I had a person that I saw as "the one that got away". He was one of the first true friends I ever met, and the first person that I truly fell in love with, as he also was the first person who broke my heart. More or less. The thought that bugged me throughout the years is that if I could go back in time and do it all over, then I know what to do different so that we could have truly tried.
           However, I notice that the feelings towards him wears off. It's been a long time since I've seen him, and he's changed. In the rist of sounding extremely klishè, he's not the guy I fell in love with back then. And that, my dearest friends, is how life moved on.



I want to sort of ... "dedicate" this post to a dear friend of mine. He doesn't read my blog, so I guess it doesn't really matter, but this post is mostly based on his feelings towards a girl.
Hang in there buddy.
The one that got away is a powerful thing, but the true love of your life will make all of it unimportant.